For some reason, the 2017 school year has become an emotional roller coaster. Over here, we have Assumption’s budget cuts that are causing a lot of worry for a lot of people, while over there, everyone’s personal lives are changing, simply because a new year brings on new changes. On top of that, I’m a senior. I have a pretty good idea of what I want to do with my life, but the process of getting to that future-me will definitely be the hardest part. Plus, I’m super behind on school work. But that’s beside the point.
I have been thinking about my happiness a lot lately. I’m the type of person that will always, and I do mean always, put others before myself. After years of draining myself to help others, I realized something had to change. Now, I have to remind myself that, yes, even I can and deserve to be happy, in spite of all the unhappiness in other people’s lives.
Earlier this year, Ed Sheeran released his new album, Divide. My go-to song on that album became “Save Myself.” I just fell in love with everything about it: the music, the words, the form. I identified with that song from the first moment I listened to it because I realized that I was living my life wrong. I was giving too much love to others without learning how to love myself. Granted I didn’t “drown it with a drink and out of date prescription pills,” but again, beside the point.
Another song I look towards when I need emotional inspiration is “Hey Jude” by The Beatles. One stanza reminds me to let go of what’s bothering me and not to close myself off: “And anytime you feel the pain/ Hey Jude, refrain/ Don’t carry the world upon your shoulders/ For well you know that it’s a fool/ Who plays it cool/ By making his world a little colder.” This song tells me to be unafraid of new situations and give changes a chance. It reminds me not to overthink and to stay open with others.
I firmly believe that everyone needs someone to be an open ear for them. They need that one person who will be there for them and listen when no one else will. People need that reassuring “yes, you’re doing the right thing,” or “no, you’re overthinking this.” But most importantly, they need someone who will keep them grounded and realistic, regardless of what they want to hear. So I make a point to be that ear for people.
I urge others to acknowledge the fact that reevaluation is not a bad thing. Think about your life. Do you like where you’re at? Can you see yourself in this same position further down the road? If not, then change it. Nothing, and I mean nothing, is stopping you from achieving your happiness, from becoming that person you wish you were. The only obstacle standing in the way of that is yourself.
Reevaluation is never a bad thing. I mean change is scary, I get it. But life has to change. It’s just the natural course of things; nothing can stay the same forever. Rather than get stuck in the past, it’s better to keep up with the changes in your life. Moving on is healthy and natural. Dwelling on the past only hurts yourself in the long run.
This quickly turned into an advice column. Oops.
Moral of the story, I check and recheck my life all the time. I ask myself, is this where I want to be? And then I change it. Because everyone, not just me, deserves happiness in their lives. You deserve to feel satisfaction that you’re in a good place and know that you have the ability to help themselves when you really need it. You need to be open to new situations. Remind yourself to breathe once in a while and realize that a bad day is not the end of the world. You need to feel love for yourself before you can give love to anyone else.
Rebecca Galib, a senior, studies English and music. She is the Assistant Editor-in-Chief of Le Provocateur.