Do you ever think back to those long-lost friendships from years ago? Maybe you had an argument about some trivial, middle-school drama and vowed never to speak to each other again. Maybe you had a friend group that you were absolutely inseparable with, but as time went by, you all went separate ways and developed your own, individual lives. Maybe you just fell out of touch and drifted in separate directions.
I hadn’t thought of my middle-school friend group in ages. I mean, eight years have gone by, and I haven’t thought to contact any of them. And yes, I feel a little guilty about it, but we all have separate lives now. I ran away from my weird, geeky, middle-school self as fast as could once I became a high-schooler and never looked back. I changed. We all did. As time continued to pass, I thought we had all forgotten each other. Life goes on, right?
Well, it turns out that eight years brings a lot of changes. Major changes. One of my friends has a daughter now. Another is studying pharmacy is South Carolina. And here I am, a senior, content with my life. I now know who I am and what I’m meant to do. It seems like I wasn’t the only one that ditched the middle-school personality.
This past week, I was scrolling through my Facebook feed, determined to procrastinate my reading for class. One of my friend’s names popped up on screen. The post announced her engagement to her boyfriend of one year. I had to do a double-take and read it over twice simply because it came as such a shock to me. Of course, I’m happy for her in spite of my confusion, so I commented, “So happy for you both!” I left it at that.
Then, another friend from that middle-school group messaged me on Facebook and asked how life was going. This was a little bit of a surprise; she’s one of those people that just dropped off the face of the earth after a while. I mean, you always have those Facebook friends that post pictures or statuses, and you have a vague idea of what they’re doing with their lives. She just isn’t one of those people. Never mind not talking for several years, I hadn’t even seen her face since we all drifted apart.
So needless to say it came as a bit of a shock. But it was even more of a shock that she was persistent to invite me to a bridal shower dinner that she was planning. How could someone that I hadn’t seen or talked to in several years think to invite me to such a big event?
Thinking back on the conversation, I’m actually very touched and humbled that she thought to invite me. This could actually be a great opportunity to rekindle friendships that I had thought were long gone.
Friendships change over time, no matter if the relationships have been lost or are stronger than ever. The wonderful aspect of friendships is that they’re so informal. You can have experiences like I did, not talking to your friends for years, and in the blink of an eye they’re back in your life in ways you never imagined they would be. But they’re also the hardest relationships to hold together. Familial relationships keep you bonded because…well, let’s face it, you’re stuck with them. As you grow up and your lives develop, it becomes harder to keep long-standing relationships with friends. We all go through it. It’s a part of life.
So, needless to say this will be an interesting experience. But how often do a whole bunch of long-lost friends want you to come back into their lives? Especially when it comes to celebrating an engagement. Honestly, I’m pretty excited to catch up with them. I have no idea what the future will bring for us, but if we can rekindle our friendships, it’ll be worth it.
Rebecca Galib, a senior, studies English and music. She is the Assistant Editor-in-Chief of Le Provocateur.